Men, the best way to resolve your marriage problems is to really understand what women want deep down in their subconscious minds. If you don’t you may end up with a costly divorce on your hands, costly in terms of money spent on divorce lawyers and marriage guidance counsellors but even more costly in terms of your health and life style wealth. By that I mean the emotional affect it has on not only you but on your children, family and friends as well. Wealth measured in non financial terms relates to relationships you have with those closest to you. And all this can be destroyed by divorce – shared custody, upset children, and friends with divided loyalties and so on.
So wouldn’t be better to resolve your marriage problems quickly in order to save your marriage rather than head to the divorce courts. I personally have had two failed marriages and believe me I wish I had known then what I know now about how to deal with problems in marriage. Maybe I would not be in the financial crisis I am in now had I taken heed of the advice I am going to give you. Because I don’t want any one else to make the same mistakes I did and end up divorced twice and financially compromised.
No matter how bad it seems, you can still turn your marriage around and enjoy the romance and the sex that you once had. All the fights and arguments are just the symptoms that cover up the real issue. The real problems in marriage can be resolved by understanding and acting upon the following principals.
1) Marriage Problems Can Be Resolved By Understanding What Women Want
What women really want is a guy who will do what it takes to get the job done so that she and her family are safe. That’s what turns women on more than anything. This is due to evolutionary psychology which has become so ingrained in our DNA. In the caveman days women needed a man who could protect her from harm and who could provide for her and her offspring. And on the other hand biologically you as the man are looking for a woman who can bear your children and spread your genes.
And who are you to stop that evolutionary force? Biologically even in this day and age that is what a woman wants. That is the fundamental problem in marriage. Couples do not realise that they are being ruled by their genes, by their biological sex drive. As a husband you need to be many things. A protector, a partner, possibly even a friend, but what you really are, what your MAIN role in your life is – you are your wife’s sex partner.
2) Marriage Problems Can Be Resolved By Building Attraction
The success of every marriage depends on one thing and one thing only: ATTRACTION. Are you still attracted to your wife? Is she still attracted to you? Do you get turned on just by watching her get undressed at night or brush her hair in the morning or sip her coffee? Do you want to ravish her naked body? If not, there’s something seriously wrong with your relationship.
You can turn your marriage around, if you know how to do it and are willing to put a bit of work into it. But none of your efforts will be worth a thing if you aren’t both attracted to each other; if you aren’t both passionately hot and unable to resist each other.
3) Marriage Problems Can Be Resolved By Becoming The Leader In Your Marriage
There’s absolutely no such thing as a completely equal partnership. ONE person always has to be the one to make the final decision and call the shots. Every group in history, from small groups of people to world governments, churches and businesses, all have one thing in common – somebody is the LEADER.
The leader in your relationship is going to be the one with the power. Become the manliest, most alpha man you can be and assume the leadership role in your marriage. Men – you have to be the leader in your relationship. You will find that power and leadership are SEXY and that is what will keep your wife attracted to you.
4) Marriage Problems Can Be Resolved When You Take The Power Back
There’s something incredibly arousing about having someone decide what you should do, and that’s the first step you need to take with your wife to generate complete attraction. Hey man you need to take the power back because a woman who has a weak husband just ISN’T ATTRACTED TO HIM and she becomes bored and rapidly looses interest in him.
And that, men, is the basic reason for the problems in marriage. Men do not follow their biological programming and become weak. They stop being leaders and attraction dies. Reawaken the leader in you, take back the power and you will soon notice how much your wife is attracted to you.
So, in summary, if you want your marriage to take a 180 degree turn and transform into an exciting, mutually beneficial relationship with mind blowing sex then you need to take action today. To save your marriage you need to urgently resolve your fundamental marriage problems. Rekindle the attraction by assuming the leadership role in your marriage.